At some point in the Dark Night of Heartbreak, you come up for air. The intensity softens, even just a little, and a new set of questions begins to emerge:
What do I actually want now? What will I no longer live with—or live without? What kind of life and love would truly fit me?
Welcome to Reimagining, the fourth phase of the Dark Night of Heartbreak. This is where you begin rebuilding, not from the same old scripts, other people’s expectations, or who you used to be, but from what is true for you now.
In this episode, we explore how to reconnect with that truth and to imagine a life that is better, brighter, and more fitting of who you’re becoming.
In this episode, look and listen for:
- How to reconnect with your truth when heartbreak has made it difficult to know what you want, need, or trust.
- How to envision your next chapter of life and love, even if you don’t have a plan for it, haven’t seen it done before, and aren’t totally sure it’s even possible.
- How to listen to and follow your truth: the jolts of joy, curiosity, and aliveness pointing you toward what comes next.
In this phase, your work is simple, although still radical: listen for what is true for you now and allow yourself to dream audaciously into what’s next.
Resources mentioned in the episode
Know Your Own Voice
A free short class and worksheet to help you tune into your inner compass: hear your truth, distinguish your yes from your no, and get clearer about what is—and isn’t—right for you.
liyanasilver.com/voice
The Waking Up Workbook + ‘Yes, This!’ Practice
Pre-order Waking Up in the Dark Night of Divorce and receive the accompanying workbook, including the guided “Yes, This” exercise and all the practices from the book.
liyanasilver.com/wakingup
Earlier episodes in the Five Phases series
- Phase 1: Initiation — Let This Heartbreak Remake You [https://podcast.liyanasilver.com/let-this-heartbreak-remake-you/]
- Phase 2: Dissolution — What I Said When She Called Me Sobbing [https://podcast.liyanasilver.com/what-i-said-when-she-called-me-sobbing/]
- Phase 3: Excavation — Stop Fighting Yourself [https://podcast.liyanasilver.com/stop-fighting-yourself/]
- Phase 5: Emerging — coming soon, subscribe to Waking Up in Heartbreak and I’ll see you there!
Waking Up in the Dark Night of Divorce by LiYana Silver
Order Waking Up in the Dark Night of Divorce + receive two book bonuses:
- The Waking Up Workbook to accompany the book, with all the practices from the book plus space for you to write and draw; and
- Book Club with LiYana: 3 weekly meetings in which I’ll read from the book, we’ll practice together, discuss, and have Q+A.
Connect with LiYana
Website: liyanasilver.com
Waking Up in The Dark Night of Divorce book: liyanasilver.com/wakingup
Feminine Genius book: liyanasilver.com/femininegenius
The Heartbreak Transformation Map: liyanasilver.com/map
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About LiYana Silver
Relationship coach and author of Waking Up in The Dark Night of Divorce and Feminine Genius, LiYana works with women at the knife’s edge of heartbreak — reckoning with divorce, breakup, and heartbreak so complex it feels like a dark night of the soul.
LiYana guides women (and their partners) through (not around) the darkest passages of their lives. Through her transformational methodology, LiYana helps individuals, couples, and groups reclaim what they lost in the relationship, break repeating patterns, and emerge awake, aligned, and lit-up.
A former professional dancer and lover of painting with oils, LiYana lives in Asheville, NC with her son, their two cats, and a frankly impressive number of houseplants.